While Your Alive and Kicking, It's Never Too Late To Create

via Art Support

Making Life a Work of Art

via Art Support

I love Synchronicity

Last night in my dreams I brushed up awkwardly and by accident against a man who looked slightly like Dave Grohl, and it felt a little sparkly. The man who looked similar was an environmentalist or an ecologist working with a group of friendly and awesome people relocating snapping turtles from the roadside. This video came up in my YouTube feed and was released today by Art Support. I love synchronicity as much as I love Art Support!

Beyond the FALSE SCAPEGOAT NARRATIVE: With Rebecca C. Mandeville, LMFT- Adult Child Podcast

[Part 3 of 4]: Scroll down to view chapters - In DYSFUNCTIONAL or NARCISSISTIC family systems that SCAPEGOAT, a negative, painful, "shaming and blaming" FALSE NARRATIVE is attached to a particular child - This child is often the family EMPATH or 'Truth-Teller'. Recovering from family scapegoating abuse (FSA) therefore includes dis-identifying from the damaging 'scapegoat narrative' - a CRITICAL cognitive step in the scapegoated Adult Child's healing. Tune in as Andrea Ashley of the Adult Child Podcast and Rebecca C. Mandeville, psychotherapist and author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', continue to explore how scapegoating can occur in dysfunctional, traumatized families. PART 4 will be released on 12/16. Access Parts 1 and 2 of the Podcast here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list.... TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast discusses psycho-emotional abuse and could be activating to adult survivors Learn more about Structural Dissociation: https://www.scapegoatrecovery.com/202...

0:00 - Intro 0:22 - Discussing family patterns of scapegoating with your child. 1:50 - Recognizable symptoms of family scapegoating abuse (FSA). 3:30 - Rebecca shares FSA assessment process. 3:46 - Narcissistic abuse versus FSA. 4:14 - From Denial to Acceptance - FSA healing and recovery path. 6:15 - Dis-identifying from the false scapegoat narrative. 7:35 - The challenges of Narcissistic family abuse recovery. 8:05 - Structural Dissociation and family abuse. 9:25 - FSA, Toxic Shame, and Complex Trauma. 9:40 - How Cognitive shifts help in FSA recovery. 11:00 - The importance of psycho-education in FSA recovery. 12:10 - The traumatized parent versus the narcissistic parent and FSA. 13:00 - FSA and the heavy weight of intergenerational trauma. ✅ You can purchase my best-selling book on family scapegoating abuse (FSA), 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3sEaqcx. Or buy from your favorite online shop via this secure Universal Buy Link (UBL): https://books2read.com/intro2fsa. ✅ Check out more of my videos on FSA: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list...

[Part 4 of 4]: Scroll down to view chapters - SCAPEGOATED BY FAMILY? Join Psychotherapist, researcher, and author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', Rebecca C. Mandeville, as she shares her clinical observations and the experiences of her scapegoated clients and FSA research participants on what she named 'family scapegoating abuse' (FSA) in part four of this four-part interview with Andrea Ashley of 'Adult Child Podcast'.

0:00 - Intro 0:25 - Working with families with intergenerational trauma. 1:15 - The family Identified Patient (as IP) as holder of systemic grief. 2:34 - FSA and alcoholic family systems. 3:30 - When truth can be dangerous. 4:00 - Limiting family contact and FSA recovery. 5:05 - Why cultural competence matters in FSA treatment. 5:40 - Why scapegoating can worsen as an adult survivor gets healthier. 6:50 - Doing a new healthier 'dance' in a dysfunctional family (analogy). 7:23 - Setting a 'no contact' boundary with abusive family members. 9:00 - Rebecca's goal with her work on FSA. 10:20 - How FSA can affect romantic relationships. 12:14 - "We go to what we know".

You Are Invited to Visit a TeaRoom on TeaCup

10 Reasons why I am so grateful for the TeaCup Community 

by Diana Delaney

• I have had the joy of laughing with women, so much so that it improved my day by at least 100%.

• I have stepped back into my visioning process with excitement for how I can share in experience with others around subjects and topics that I feel passionate about. 

• Hearing the stories and experiences of other TeaCup participants has been so enlightening, engaging and inspiring to me.

• TeaCup feels like a home away from home, from the cozy comforts of home.

• Having conversations that are deep and enriching to my life brings a wider sense of wholeness and wellness to my heart, mind and spirt/soul. 

• Learning new things keeps my mind active and interested in staying curious and continuing to expand my knowledge and wisdom base.

• TeaCup gives me something to look forward to as a shared space where I feel safe to be myself. 

• Sharing in a community where we celebrate each other and feel authentic gratitude for our connections and kinships is enriching my life in so many ways. 

• The conversations we are sharing within the TeaCup Groups and Community has sparked and enhanced my creativity. 

• My heart is happier and my soul and spirit are growing through my participation in groups and conversations through TeaCup. 

https://www.teacupinc.com/

A Favorite Muse and Creative Artist Gives Art Advice

I’ll Be Over Here Swooning Over This

About Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) Podcast

ABOUT FAMILY SCAPEGOATING ABUSE (FSA): Adult Child Podcast w/ Rebecca C. Mandeville, LMFT - Part One

Did you know that family scapegoating can happen in any dysfunctional family system - not just a narcissistic one? Andrea Ashley of 'Adult Child Podcast' interviews Psychotherapist and internationally recognized Family Systems expert Rebecca C. Mandeville @beyondfamilyscapegoatingabuse, author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role'. In Part One of this four-part Podcast, Rebecca discusses what drew her to specialize in Family Systems and what led to her initiating her research on what she eventually named, 'Family Scapegoating Abuse' (FSA). FSA's relationship with intergenerational trauma and complex trauma (C-PTSD) is also addressed, as well as blatant (overt) versus subtle (covert) forms of FSA.

0:00 - Intro 1:20 - Andrea shares her connection to Rebecca's work. 2:15 - What is a family Genogram? 3:25 - Family Systems versus Internal Family Systems. 4:40 - FSA versus narcissistic abuse. 5:48 - On coining the term 'family scapegoating abuse' (FSA). 6:15 - FSA and complex trauma (C-PTSD). 8:00 - No Escape: How children develop complex trauma. 9:34 - When scapegoating isn't obvious (Andrea's experience) 10:55 - Subtle versus blatant forms of family scapegoating. 11:28 - Examples of overt, blatant scapegoating. 11:57 - The Narcissistic Martyr Parent Ploy 12:40 - Covert scapegoating of the family Empath. 13:35 - Getting "tarred and feathered" energetically by your family.

The SCAPEGOAT'S BURDEN: Carrying the FAMILY SHADOW - Part 2 of the Adult Child Podcast

[Part 2 of 4]: In DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY SYSTEMS that are driven by the Family Projective Identification Process, the Empath or Highly Sensitive (HSP) child / adult child may find themselves in the 'Scapegoat' role due to their becoming the repository for the family's 'disowned parts' (e.g., individual and systemic trauma, anxiety, pain) - a dynamic that can happen in ANY social group where unconscious dynamics and processes are at play. Tune in as Andrea Ashley of the Adult Child Podcast and Rebecca C. Mandeville, psychotherapist and author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', continue to explore how scapegoating can occur in dysfunctional, traumatized families - even when there are no narcissists involved.

0:00 - Intro 0:22 - Defining the Family Projective Identification Process. 1:01 - The scapegoat carries the 'Shadow' for the 'tribe'. 2:04 - Scapegoating and the family Empath / Truth-teller 2:45 - How children develop 'fawn' / submit behaviors. 3:09 - The 'fight' response in scapegoated children. 3:46 - The "Cry for Help" trauma response. 4:14 - Scapegoat as potential source of healing for family. 4:59 - Scapegoat as carrier of intergenerational trauma. 5:45 - Living the distorted 'scapegoat narrative'. 6:19 - Scapegoating and the term 'Identified Patient' (IP). 9:07 - Why family therapy can be re-traumatizing to the family scapegoating / IP. 11:20 - Setting limits and terms regarding familial re-connection. 12:57 - Why scapegoating family members rarely apologize. 13:22 - Parents who realize they are scapegoating their child.

Affirmations for Adult Survivors of Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) - Vol. 1

Welcome! Have you been rejected, shamed, bullied, and blamed by your family-of-origin - perhaps since early childhood - and struggle to understand why they would target you in this way? This channel specifically focuses on understanding and recovering from scapegoating that is fueled by the Family Projective Identification Process, which is similar to a shared family 'psychosis' (i.e., believing things that are not true) and can occur in highly dysfunctional families with unaddressed intergenerational trauma. It was created for both FSA Adult Survivors and Clinicians. It is NOT a substitute for clinical assessment or treatment. About me: My name is Rebecca C. Mandeville, and I'm a Psychotherapist and Certified Complex Trauma Professional; Family Systems researcher; and the author of the best-selling book on what I named 'family scapegoating abuse' (FSA), 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role'. FSA occurs in dysfunctional family systems and is an insidious form of 'invisible' (psycho-emotional) abuse. After 20 years of clinical practice - including running Family Programs in addiction treatment clinics - I've worked with hundreds of dysfunctional families and scapegoated adult survivors where the Family Projective Identification Process was clearly at play. Understanding this type of projection can be life-changing for many FSA adult survivors who struggle to comprehend what happened to them in their families, and what type of abuse they are suffering from.

Playful and Direct Wisdom: Art King Status Style

I love how Basquiat skillfully uses his wisdom, knowledge and experience to playfully and humbly educate the interviewer who is unknowingly and annoyingly full of microaggressions, and not so micro aggressions.

The following was borrowed from Art Support, which I encourage you to follow:

Are you affected by what other people say about your art? Jean-Michael Basquiat has some words of wisdom on how to ignore what the critics say, and express yourself authentically.

Jean-Michael Basquiat Biography Many people think that Jean-Michel Basquiat (1960 -1988), who was born in New York, was one of the most important artists of the 1980s and 1990s. Basquiat tried out street art when he was a young adult. He was known as SAMO in the downtown art scene of New York City. In 1981, he was part of a groundbreaking show called "New York/New Wave" at MoMA's PS1 branch in Long Island City. During his short, high-profile career, the artist looked at issues like what it means to be black in America, the effects of colonization, and the effects of consumerism.

I’m always willing to listen to a man who goes with the logic that god and creator is a woman.

A Visionary Who Makes His Dreams Real, An Amazing Creativity Coach By Example.

This Interview with Dame Damon Dash is a Masterclass on The Creative Mindset of Making Things Happen.

Because of the Title of this Video, And Recent Controversy I feel the need to ‘Splain.

Spoiler Alert: Dame Understands that Ye is a PROVOCATEUR And At the Same time is puzzled by his actions. That issue only consumes about a minute of this content in the video below. Dame Dash doesn’t even want to talk about Jay-Z, so in relation to this video, it’s hardly an issue.

I wish the cover wasn’t so click bait oriented, but this was not my show or rodeo.

I strongly feel that what is said here in this interview is beyond Invaluable for creative people of all kinds.

Dame Dash is the co-founder of Roc-A-Fella records and the producer who discovered Jay Z and Kanye West. A legend of hip hop and rap who changed not only the dominant sound within the genre, he totally upended the way it operated as a business. Topic: 0:00 Intro 02:06 Early years 11:43 Losing your mother 16:14 What is your dark side 21:10 Where did you get your mindset from? 26:21 What did you have above everyone else 29:56 Why did Roc-a-fella win? 40:46 Whats the right type of dream to set 44:34 How do you stay focused? 45:41 How sustainable is your ambition? 54:03 The importance of honour and loyalty 55:39 Discovering Kanye 01:03:04 Regrets with Roc-a-fella 01:03:04 Kanye compared to Jay-z 01:10:56 I don’t trust anyone 01:17:58 Hard work 01:20:37 Therapy 01:23:13 The hardest moment in your life 01:25:53 What lessons are you teaching your 5 children? 01:28:03 Visualisation 01:30:39 The last guest question Dame: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3DVTBQF Twitter: https://bit.ly/3FFMSf8

KRS One Explains the 5th Dimension Along with the Innerspace and the Innerman

KRS One goes in detail about what the 5th dimension is and how to get there.

He explains the innerman and shows you how essentially you are a spirit.

Joanna Macy - Choosing Life - at Bioneers

Deep Ecology extends an inalienable right to life to all beings. A systems theorist, author and lifelong activist, Joanna Macy describes how healing the world and healing your heart and soul go hand in hand. This talk took place at the 2013 Bioneers National Conference and is part of the Protecting and Restoring Nature Collection, Vol. 1. Since 1990, Bioneers has acted as a fertile hub of social and scientific innovators with practical and visionary solutions for the world's most pressing environmental and social challenges. To experience talks like this, please join us at the Bioneers National Conference each October, and regional Bioneers Resilient Community Network gatherings held nationwide throughout the year. For more information on Bioneers, please visit http://www.bioneers.org and stay in touch via Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/Bioneers.org) and Twitter (https://twitter.com/bioneers).

Personally, I am Proudly Part of the Spinster Class. It's a Conscious Choice.

I Am Also An Unapologetic Feminist,

Following Decades of Abuse.

Which Is Why I Love Khadija Mbowe and her commentary.

“Childless behaviour” unpacking the Spinster slander

with Khadija MbowE

Mother & Wife, or Single w/ pets? Maybe it's not necessarily a spinster era but...it's not ...not...*squints*

The Document https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Q...

These are all things I’ve used to give me a deeper/better understanding of gender, my relationship to it, a touch of feminism, and just general media I think could be helpful to others! via Khadija Mbowe

The Mensiz are lonely 🥺 but...should we care? Khadija Mbowe

booking: khadija@sparkmedia.la Books Re-thinking Sex- Chirstine Emba All about Love- bell hooks The Right to Sex: Feminism in the Twenty-First Century- Amia Srinivasan Permission to feel- Marc Brackett Had it coming- Robyn Doolitte (this is the only one I haven’t read) Some Reads The Number of ‘Lonely, Single Men’ Is on the Rise Thanks to Modern Dating’s Higher Standards https://jezebel.com/the-number-of-lon... The Rise of Lonely, Single Men https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/bl... The Number Of “Lonely, Single Men” Is On The Rise Due To Women Choosing Healthier Relationships, And The Internet Finds It Funny https://www.boredpanda.com/number-of-... Men Can't Keep Up With Women's High Dating Standards, This Couple's Therapist Says https://www.popsugar.com/love/rise-in... Rising Share of U.S. Adults Are Living Without a Spouse or Partner https://www.pewresearch.org/social-tr... More Men Use Dating Apps Than Women https://time.com/3711902/men-use-dati... Women who are unmarried and childless are the happiest people of all, according to a professor of behavioral science https://www.businessinsider.com/unmar... This is why women are happier when they’re single than men https://www.insider.com/why-women-are... Quote Investigater https://quoteinvestigator.com/2016/10... Straight men, if you want to find love you’ll need to do better https://ca.sports.yahoo.com/news/stra... Women are happier without children or a spouse, says happiness expert https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandst... New research says unmarried women without kids are happier — but is that actually the case? https://www.mic.com/life/are-unmarrie... Nearly Half of U.S. Adults Say Dating Has Gotten Harder for Most People in the Last 10 Years https://www.pewresearch.org/social-tr... Single men are suffering most from loneliness right now https://www.brothersinarmsscotland.co...

Books:

Re-thinking Sex- Chirstine Emba

All about Love- bell hooks

How can I get Through to you- Terrance Real

The Will to Change- bell hooks

The Right to Sex: Feminism in the Twenty-First Century- Amia Srinivasan

Permission to feel- Marc Brackett

Had it coming- Robyn Doolitte

The Beauty of Social Technology Created Long Before Capitalism

The Power & Empowerment of Teaching and Learning Through Ceremony and Meaning Making

Lyla June Johnston | Indigenous social technologies via Regenerators

This clip is from the session with Lyla June Johnston on indigenous wisdom as a blueprint for regenerative leadership, as part of the Regenerative Leadership Journey 2022.

Lyla June Johnston is a public speaker, artist, scholar and community organizer of Diné (Navajo), Tsétsêhéstâhese (Cheyenne) and European lineages from Taos, New Mexico. Her messages focus on Indigenous rights, supporting youth, traditional land stewardship practices and healing inter-generational and inter-cultural trauma.

This has so many layers of depth after watching Lyla June's discussion of Indigenous Social Technologies on Regenerators youtube channel yesterday. The potency and power of female empowerment is bringing me to happy tears and tears of gratitude, the power of such beauty is humbling in honoring the strength in matrilineal lines. -Diana Eileen Delaney

From the link:

In this music video, spoken-word artist Lyla June offers a poetic reflection on time and the wisdom needed to care for future generations. To learn more, check out the video on https://emergencemagazine.org/

Lyla June - Writer and Musician

Desirae Harp - Additional Vocals

Adam Loften - Director and Editor

Emmanuel Vaughan-Lee - Producer

Judah Kerr - Beat Producer

Jason Joseffer - Director of Photography

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Dr. Gabor Mate on the Myth of "Normal" via Mindfulness 360 - Center For Mindfulness

Black Friday

Capitalism as a Barometer of Normalcy

is an Ill Advised Model for Sanity, Wellness and Health

Physician Dr. Gabor Mate began his interview by addressing the 'myth of normal' that divides us into the normal and the abnormal with pathological traits. Dr. Mate mentions that he doesn't see a division, but a continuum where mental distress, [to] some degree, is present in all of us. He explains how mental distress and pathology are largely a result of a materialist culture that "idealizes individualism and ignores our emotional needs".

Capitalism is Killing Us

Gabor Maté CM (born January 6, 1944) is a Hungarian-Canadian physician and author.[1] He has a background in family practice and a special interest in childhood development, trauma[2] and potential lifelong impacts on physical and mental health including autoimmune disease, cancer, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD),[3] addictions and a wide range of other conditions.

Maté's approach to addiction focuses on the trauma his patients have suffered and looks to address this in their recovery.[4] In his book In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, Maté discusses the types of trauma suffered by persons with substance use disorders and how this affects their decision making in later life.

He believes in the connection between mind and body health. He has authored four books exploring topics including ADHD, stress, developmental psychology, and addiction. He is a regular columnist for the Vancouver Sun and The Globe and Mail.

Original Video:

Keynote ACES to Assets 2019 – Dr. Gabor Maté – Trauma as disconnection from the self

What’s Going On? - The Ecology

Marvin Gaye - Mercy Mercy Me (The Ecology)

Lakota Historian Nick Estes on Thanksgiving, Settler Colonialism & Continuing Indigenous Resistance

Lakota historian Nick Estes talks about Thanksgiving and his book "Our History Is the Future," and the historic fight against the Dakota Access pipeline at Standing Rock. "This history ... is a continuing history of genocide, of settler colonialism and, basically, the founding myths of this country," says Estes, who is a co-founder of the Indigenous resistance group The Red Nation and a citizen of the Lower Brule Sioux Tribe. Democracy Now! is an independent global news hour that airs on over 1,500 TV and radio stations Monday through Friday. Watch our livestream at https://democracynow.org Mondays to Fridays 8-9 a.m. ET.

Lettering Creations

I’ve been practicing mindfulness and meditation through art for a really long time. Probably going all the way back to childhood, before being conscious of it. It really brings me so much joy to create. Lately I’ve been practicing lettering with quotes that inspire me and open my mind, and some that make me laugh. Click on the photo below to view the various quotes and lettering iterations.

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I Am Feeling So Much Gratitude In My Heart For This Teacher and For Her Teachings. Now is the Time of the Shamballa Warriors, The Rainbow Warriors, The Bodhisattvas

Indigenous Voices are the most Valuable Voices Regarding Climate Change

We continue our coverage of the U.N. climate conference in Sharm el-Sheikh, Egypt, by asking what Indigenous leaders at the frontlines of the climate crisis are calling for from world leaders. We speak to Andrea Ixchíu, a land defender from Guatemala, and Rosa Marina Flores Cruz, an Afro-Indigenous activist from Mexico, who are both part of the Futuros Indígenas collective. They discuss how their countries' megaprojects and big business are devastating Indigenous communities. "Green capitalism is affecting our communities. It's displacing people. It's creating violence," says Ixchíu. Amid the murder and persecution of climate activists across Latin America, "defend[ing] the land is one of the most difficult and dangerous activities that we can do," says Cruz. Democracy Now! is an independent global news hour that airs on over 1,500 TV and radio stations Monday through Friday. Watch our livestream at https://democracynow.org Mondays to Fridays 8-9 a.m. ET.

Democracy Now! is broadcasting live from COP27, the U.N. climate conference in Sharm el-Sheikh, Egypt, where hundreds of activists protested outside the plenary hall Thursday to demand climate justice. We speak to two Indigenous activists and land defenders at the summit, Eriel Tchekwie Deranger and Tom Goldtooth. "It is frontline communities, land defenders and Indigenous peoples that have experienced the loss of our territories at the hands of oil and gas and extractivism," says Deranger, executive director of Indigenous Climate Action and member of the Athabasca Chipewyan First Nation. "Colonialism has to be addressed in these hallways, and there's been lack of political will around that," says Goldtooth, executive director of the Indigenous Environmental Network and member of the Diné and Dakota nations. Democracy Now! is an independent global news hour that airs on over 1,500 TV and radio stations Monday through Friday. Watch our livestream at https://democracynow.org Mondays to Fridays 8-9 a.m. ET.

Brazilian President-elect Luiz Inácio Lula da Silva addressed world leaders at the U.N. climate conference in Sharm el-Sheikh, Egypt, on Wednesday, vowing to end deforestation of the Amazon rainforest and create a ministry to represent Indigenous peoples in his government. Brazil's new approach to climate change aims to reverse outgoing far-right President Jair Bolsonaro's policies that have devastated Indigenous lands. "With Lula's support, we can fight against deforestation and support Indigenous peoples in protecting and confronting the threats they face, including assassinations and human rights violations," says Gregório Mirabal, an Indigenous leader from the Venezuelan Amazon. His colleague Atossa Soltani, board president of Amazon Watch, translated for him. Democracy Now! is an independent global news hour that airs on over 1,500 TV and radio stations Monday through Friday. Watch our livestream at https://democracynow.org Mondays to Fridays 8-9 a.m. ET.

Wise Words and Wisdom Around Self Love & Mental Health: Snoop Dog via Art Support

Snoop Dog - Why You Should Love and Thank Yourself

Video by Art Support